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It has been a long time since my last post. A lot of things surrounding this ideology have caught my attention and I thought it would be a great topic to write about. And for those of you who I haven’t met I hope this helps. Thanks in advance for reading.


So here I am, a 22 year old, college graduate with a degree and the real world is knocking at my door step. After looking back at the last year, I would’ve never thought I would be in the positions I am currently in right now, still searching for a job in a field that I spent 4 YEARS OF MY LIFE STUDYING FOR. I’ve talked to a lot of my friends and they are pretty much in the same boat that I am which made me think about how or why this happened. Since I’ve been little I was always lectured about staying out of trouble, getting good grades in school graduating from college and a landing that really nice job (the one with the big windows overlooking the city). It seemed like such a full proof plan to becoming a successful adult.

The key to being “successful” (in my ever so humble opinion) isn’t about WHAT you’ve done but more so about whom you’ve effected. The money, the cars, the clothes and other material things are good to have but they don’t quiet measure up to being able to positively affect an audience. People are the focus in my measurement because, unlike money, they never lose their value over time. But in order to make a successful difference YOU MUST LIVE, SPEAK, AND THINK SUCCESSFUL!!!!! This means that you must practice what you preach. I think people generally have the capacity to do well but their environment and other thing distract them from their purpose. I’ve actually come up with a list of might help you STAY FOCUSED.


  1. Find Your Passion – You must enjoy what you are doing to be successful at it. Once you find something you like DO IT to the best of your ability and don’t let anyone stop you.
  2. Success Is Never A One Man/Woman Show – You can’t succeed alone. Every story of success is a story of people working together, each contributing their own unique talents, skill sets and abilities. Do what you do best and place yourself around others that have similar ideas and successful actions. “Birds of the same feather flock together.”
  3. Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff – Things will go wrong, it’s apart of life. You can’t fail if you don’t quit. Find yet another way to make it work. Drive is one of the essential components of success.
  4. Think Successful and Actions Will Follow – If you don’t like where you are today, don’t expect tomorrow to be any different without change. Change your attitude, priorities, and activities and you will be surprised how it will affect your situation. Whatever you think about most of the time is what you create in your life. SO THINK SUCCESSFUL
  5. Get On Track – its one thing to know what you want you want to do but it’s a completely different thing to take steps toward it. If you know what you want to do find out how to get there because without a path you’ll get lost.
  6. You Give In Order To Receive – If you want help, be helpful. If you want honest relationships, be truthful. If you want success, help others get what they want. If you want love, be loving. “The Golden Rule” never fails.
  7. It’s Your Life So Live It – Life “really” is like a movie. You write the script. You’re the star, director and critic. And like a movie, it ends. What’s important in life is not just the journey, but the “quality” of the journey. That’s why it’s important to make “every” day the best it can be, because “now” is all you have.

“”Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key of success if you love what you are doing, you will be successful.” Herman Cain

Thank you guys for reading this. I really do hope you enjoyed it. If you have any questions, comments, or concerns feel free to email me at     I’m always open to suggestions 


For those of you who know me personally know that I’m a bit of a hopeless romantic (well I like to call it being Old School) when it comes to women and relationships. I feel like women are probably one of the most precious things that GOD gave mankind (this is MY opinion of course) and I try to treat them accordingly. BUT in this day and age (like I’m old lol) the things that go on in “relationships” are really interesting and I thought I would input my two cents on relationships.

The Love Boat 2011…Maintenance Report

So I’ve had a while to sit back and watch this difficult journey/saga/quest/horror movie/epic novel called love from the sidelines.  I would have  never knew something that could bring so much happiness could transform into a wrecking ball of emotions that make people do some very uncharacteristic things like slashing tires, year-long depressions, fighting innocent people, etc. As I listen to my friends, family and even looked at some of my own problems with relationships and the opposite sex, IT HIT ME!!! RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOTHING ANYONE CAN UNDERSTAND. A relationship is the balance of ideas and emotions towards each other with one goal in mind….HAPPINESS. 

Do you guys remember the “Would you go with me? Check Yes, No, or Maybe “notes in elementary school or what about holding hands while you walk to class together in high school? Well I do and honestly I think grown up “love” is very similar to that time in our lives. A time when you saw that girl or guy and you got that tingley feeling that made you do something embarrassing but cute. What about the “mushy” nicknames like “babycakes” “boo-thang” “boo-boo” “snuck’ems” etc? Yeah that’s pretty lame in most people eyes but at that age they didn’t matter. 

I honestly believe that this kind of love is still out  there and its all apart of our journey to the our “Happily Ever After.” I must admit that  this journey has been made much harder because motives have definitely changed over the years and the societal definition of Love has evolved into a seemingly epic fictional novel. With that being said, the journey to “Happily Ever After” is not for the faint of heart and that’s something that a lot of people in our age group have a hard time coping with. But with that being said, Love isn’t something you can force or even make up yourself its nature force of nature that’s carefully place in your life. It’s very cliche’ but it’s so true “Everything happens for a reason” (I get mad every time I hear but its right). This very cliche’ phrase really does have power because if you think about it the pain and anguish that “Joe Blow” or “Janey Sue” put you through really taught you a lot and made you aware of somethings you never would have thought about if they were never in your life.  Hence, the pain you went through was a sign of growth and new beginnings, which is a pretty liberating which leaves room for her true love to walk into your life. —–>BUT<—– LOVE IS NOT A CURE ALL TO ALL YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND PERSONAL PROBLEMS IT TAKES  MAINTENANCE.

In my humble opinion love is more about perception rather than raw and unbridled emotion. Don’t get me wrong though, Love is one of the most powerful emotions that a human can feel but there has to more there to maintain that. Love is like a garden of precious fruit. Although its rare to find and very special if it’s not maintained and nurtured it’ll wither away. (Once again corny but effective) But in all seriousness Love has nothing to do with special song or a status or stage in life it’s all about sacrifice and courage. To honestly Love someone is actually a pretty scary thing if you look at. Giving your all to one person while expecting nothing (well almost nothing lol) in return and this is totally against our nature.  It’s perfectly normal to want love because of its outward appearance but to truly love someone else and to want to be with them for the rest of your life takes a lot of compromise and communication BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE …



Thank you guys for reading this. I really do hope you enjoyed it. If you have any questions, comments, or concerns feel free to email me at     I’m always open to suggestions 



It’s been a while since I’ve had the time to collect my thoughts and reflect on what’s really going on in my life.  Here’s a quick recap on how I got to my present position in this crazy saga called my life. I went to elementary school, middle school, high school and just recently graduated from Georgia Southern University with a BS in Public Relations.( I told you it would be quick) These last 21 years (almost 22, birthday shout out Oct. 1 coming soon) in grade school and college have been filled with tremendous ups and downs but I wouldn’t have had it any other way.


Ok so now that the “structured” life of a child and growing adult is over I AM NOW AN ADULT…Yes an adult. The single thing that a lot of us have always wanted to be since we were little. We get to do whatever we want and nobody get give us a whoopin, put us in timeout, put us on punishment or anything.  I remember when I was little I  just want to be just like my dad. I would do every little thing no matter what it was, from washing cars like him, playing football like him, talking like him  and even sweeping the garage like him (Hence the picture below). Hahahahaha this picture still cracks me up but it made me think about myself at that age how happy I was. The things that bother me today were nowhere near my mind,I was truly happy. 

After this quick assessment of my childhood i really thought long and hard on why that same happiness I had obtained as a child was seemingly unrealistic as an adult. Then it hit me……..THERE’S NOTHING IN THE WAY BUT ME!!!! Some people spend their entire life searching for this happiness and it is in front of them the whole time. Happiness isn’t something you hunt down and catch, its something that is realized. With this thought in mind, happiness is more of a mindset than a destination and once you realize it you’ll be once step closer to becoming happy just like you were when you were the little 6-year-old in the sandbox. The main ingredient for happiness ( in so humble opinion) is YOU. Until YOU make up YOUR mind that YOU really want to do something it won’t happen.  YOU ARE THE KEY TO YOUR OWN HAPPINESS. I know this is corny but…you can’t spell happiness without I(hahahahaha yeah that was REALLY CORNY) but hey its true. There are a lot of people with the ability to be successful but few with the mindset to match their abilities to be come happy. But hey nobody’s perfect (I know I’m not at least).

I like to think of the pursuit of happiness, in terms of a relationship with yourself (this is actually what helped me discover this ideology). In a marriage (an old school marriage, like grandmomma and granddaddy) there were many peaks and valleys but at the end of the day the love they shared for each other is greater than the current situation. That confidence in there bond was something that they had chosen to believe in and it will held strong as long as they continue to believe in it (Not to mention making active steps that support their thinking). This concept is something that goes hand in hand with your “self ” relationship. Although there may be some deep valleys you have to go through as long as you trust yourself and know that everything will be ok, it will. Life keeps on going and just like the day passes into night so will your low valleys of unhappiness.

One of my good friends told me something about a week ago, “Life happens and there’s no way of slowing it down so just live it like it is.” This really helped me simplify a lot of the things that we as “grown ups” complicate for ourselves. If there is something you want just go get it with no regret.  Things will happen and that’s apart of life. Just take care of it one step at a time and handle your business. If you do, happiness will be right around the corner.  So in I would like to leave you with this thought (and yes it is original)

Happiness is simply a mentality that is positively reinforced by logical events.

Short Version



Thank you guys for reading this. I really do hope you enjoyed it. If you have any questions, comments, or concerns feel free to email me at     I’m always open to suggestions.